What do you reply to someone, when they ask you “Who are you“?
You probably reply to them with your name. Right?
Your name is your identity but you are not defined by your name, you are defined by the values you possess.
When someone asks you about a person you know and how they are in person, you often reply that the guy is very honest, trustworthy, genuine, positive, or maybe they are negative, self-obsessed, arrogant etc
So what are these honest, trustworthy, genuine, positivity, negative, self-obsessed and arrogant?
They all are values that a human can possess, and the above mentioned are only a few of hundreds of the values present.
As a human being, you possess a lot of values and out of them some values are non-negotiable values, something which you can’t stand comprising on, these are called your core values.
Something you believe in, something you really stand for and something whose violation you can’t let happen.
Let’s say you are a very honest person and honesty is one of your core value, you will notice that you can’t stand anyone lying upfront to you because honesty is something which you can’t compromise on.
I was talking to one of my friends the other day, she discussed that honesty is one of her core values and if she hangs out with someone who lies a lot and is dishonest, she will feel guilty, shameful, embarrassed and frustrated.
Because she is not standing for something she believes in and she is not being true to herself.
Do you think you will lead a satisfactory and fulfilling life if this thing happens often?
Yeah, that’s a question which is very uncomfortable, and trust me your success is truly defined by the number of uncomfortable conversations you have with yourself or anyone else.
You will probably answer no to the question because the guy does not believe in what my friend stands for, he is actually the opposite and therefore every time she will hang out with him she will feel guilty of wasting her time with someone who doesn’t believe in the same thing.
To be continued…